Steve wrote:Keep the aftermath as a secondary in case your race gun fails on you.
If it were me, I'd sit down with her and ask for her opinion. Let her know that you are interested in getting better kit for this hbby. Ask for advice. Let her know that you are really interested in the sport and point out the positives (fairly low upkeep costs for ammo, physical fitness, cardiovascular health, it's not meth / heroin / stripper-related). Make the process a partnership so that she feels like she has input into the process, rather than being excluded. Even if the suject bores her to tears, she'll appreciate that you wanted to spend time with her talking about it. Encourage her to join you at an event that has camping the night before, so she never wants to go with you again.
Ask for input about the finances. If buying a new gun will make thing difficult financially, see if she is willing to work with you to make a plan. Figure out what it would take to budget for the purchase. It may take a little longer to get it, but it will not damage your relationship nearly as much to wait a month or three as it would if you just ninja'd one. Trust is much more important to your relationship than a new toy is to your happiness. If it is a matter of money, see if she will agree to let you finance it out of woking overtime at your normal job, or if picking up something part-time is acceptable.
And if she just won't budge at all, and the finances aren't the problem, then I'd take a serious look at your relationship. Either there is something that she cannot wrap her head around about the sport, or she simply has other issues that are causing problems. Better to identify them and address them now, rather than let them fester for a few years, neh?
Wow, awesome answer. Have you ever considered a career as a marriage counselor? I hold Steve up as proof that not all men who airsoft are hairy chested neanderthals who beat clubs on the ground and drag their women around by their hair.
Of course from my (non-married) perspective, the girl I'm dating is into roller derby so it could be argued that she is a bit tougher than me. I consider her hobby to be expensive, dangerous and painful and she feels the same way about mine. Aren't relationships wonderful!
She understands about obsession. I don't piss her off by asking her why she really needs rollerskates with flames on them that cost four times as much as plain ones and she doesn't piss me off by asking why I need yet another fake firearm that shoots plastic bb's.